Rule

If a man does not know how to rule his own house..

1 Tim 3:5

I had my own house once. Well a flat. Out here in Japan, not so much. And to make matters worse, the city office tells my wife she is head of the household as I'm not Japanese, thus inverting the natural God ordained order. It undoubtedly went to her head. But it is common here for men to just surrender their wages to their wives. Clearly some men waste their wages on alcohol or gambling & their families suffer. But generally speaking I don't think it is good for men to go begging to their wives for pocket money. Feminists talk a lot of crap on this issue. According to my wife, anything I earn is hers, & anything she earns is hers. Consistent much? You can't have it both ways, but in real politic, (and never forget in feminism "the personal is political") neither logic nor morality matter, only the ability to enforce your will. Cf Machiavelli. This is why Christians should never marry outside the faith. You are in for a rude awakening if you do. If I sound embittered, maybe I am. I try not to be, as it is a sin, but 22 years of living the way my wife wants has worn me down. If I had my way we wouldn't even be in this country. But how do you 'rule' your wife? Violence is out, clearly, or should be. Some men get away with that, but my dad never hit a woman & that seems the right way to me. Financial blackmail? Emotional blackmail? My wife is better at that than me, and it shouldn't come to that anyway. Call me naive, but I recognize now the first few years of a marriage can become a power struggle, unacknowledged perhaps sometimes, but often the case. But it shouldn't be like this. If your wife is undermining you at every step, you married the wrong lady. Better to stay single than marry a Buddhist or any kind of godless woman, is my advice. It seems too late for me, but then, God has a way of undermining the proud. Often they undermine themselves. Xantippe lost control of making Socrates's life hell when he was forced to take poison. What happened to her then? Did she starve? I'm not sure we know for certain. 

God tells us we must love our wives, and surely this is right, and St Paul tells us true love is about kindness & patience. The traditional Christian marriage ceremony famously talks about 'for better or worse'. Worse can include a whole lot. Divorce is rarely the answer. We take our flaws into any relationship, and any relationship beyond the first marriage is adultery as long as your first spouse is still alive. This is partly why King Charles is hardly fit to be Supreme Head of the Church of England.  Catholics would say sexual immorality on the part of King Henry VIII is how Anglicanism started in the first place.